Friday, March 18, 2016

On the Street…Alessandro & Allegra, Milan

31016AS6B6063webWhen I was in Milan last week I ran into my good friend Alessandro Squarzi picking up his adorable little girl from school.

 

 

A big part of our friendship is our shared love of family. I think it so refreshing to see a man so committed to being a good parent and being very present in his child’s life. I really respect Alessandro for that.

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  1. Helena

    March 18, 2016 at 4:34 pm

    At his age I expect that!

    • Nini piccola

      March 19, 2016 at 12:27 pm

      That’s a bit ageist don’t you think?

      • Maria

        March 25, 2016 at 6:29 am

        No. Its reasonable. Different levels of maturity are to be expected at different ages. A younger man is far more likely to be building his brand in one way or another, and simply not be as settled. And older man is far more likely to devote time to family because he has accomplished much by then.

        • Light & Shade Men

          April 18, 2016 at 7:48 pm

          The posture of Alessandro towards life reflects on his style and creations. This is him being dedicated to what he loves. This photo tells a lot about who he is! Great

        • Erin

          May 16, 2016 at 9:31 am

          Actually – there are a lot of young single fathers out there (and young coupled fathers) who are very serious about their family. Infact, I think we see a different kind of father today then even 30 years ago. My brother is a different kind of dad than our own father. My father was all about providing for the family. He sacrificed time with the family to provide for us. He did the best he could within a world that defined his masculinity for him. He was a fantastic father in many ways. But he wasn’t immune to the social reality of how manhood use to be defined. Today’s men don’t want to sacrifice time with family for work all the time. There is more work-family balance. Today’s men take their kids to the park, they change diapers, they do all the stuff that traditionally was seen as just something women did. They are not just providers like my dad’s generation. They are also nurturers. My Mom comments on it herself. When she was young, it was rare to see a man taking the kids to the park. Now when she sees this she smiles and says “It’s so nice to see how men today take on different rules in their family.”

          Sure, there are certainly young men out there that only care about ‘building their brand’. But there are just as many young men that value family above self promotion.

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      March 19, 2016 at 1:41 pm

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  2. AnneMcLayne

    March 18, 2016 at 5:24 pm

    Their style though… especially that coat, oh my gosh!!
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  3. Peppermint Dolly

    March 18, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    Such a stunning photo, absolutely gorgeous

    Rxx

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  4. May Kay

    March 18, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    It should be the most normal thing. Not exceptionally admirable.

    • Hannah

      March 18, 2016 at 8:24 pm

      Totally agree with this. I feel like when a woman is committed to her family, nobody bats an eye, but when a man is he is lauded as a hugely admirable person.

      • Barbara

        March 21, 2016 at 10:23 am

        Thank you.!
        I am not usually one to nitpick, but this struck me as as peculiar as well.
        It seems a woman is applauded when she sacrifices family life for work, men are applauded when they sacrifice work for family life.

        I rarely get patted on the shoulder for making time to be at home with my child, while bending over backwards to get my work done in time.
        However, when I make great sacrifices in my family life to be able to do a project abroad and be away for some time (child being shoved from playdate to sitter to grandma to daycare), people think I am super cool and well-organized.

    • Jannike

      March 20, 2016 at 11:39 am

      I could not agree more, what about this is admirable? Sadly this says more about your mindset, could this ever have been written/said/thought about a mother/woman?

      But they are adorable together, and have grate style!

      Jannike

    • L.

      March 21, 2016 at 9:40 am

      What? He should get a medal?
      No comment would be made about how admirable a woman is for taking care of her children.

      • yann mylon

        March 24, 2016 at 2:18 am

        everybody who does the same, deserves a medal.
        dont you think?

        an admirable woman also…
        I’m a father who took after his 4months-old daughter for nine months, leaving my job.

        I was very proud when I earned a good comment about it.
        I suppose he does too.
        It’s not a medal after all

        so, let’s give him a credit. Why not?

    • Erin

      May 16, 2016 at 9:33 am

      I agree it should be normal but realistically, we don’t live in a society that makes it normal. So praising men for taking on new roles should be applauded so that it encourages other men to think outside the box that they are placed in. Just like it should be for women too. Women needed a lot of support to get where they’ve gotten today. Men need that too.

  5. Adeola Naomi

    March 18, 2016 at 6:14 pm

  6. Janea

    March 18, 2016 at 6:55 pm

    Alessandro looks to have spectacular style – I love everything (coat, white jeans, red socks, impeccable shoes) and from what it appears, a great bond with this beautiful, fortunate girl.
    XO, Janea
    http://thestyletti.com

  7. JV

    March 18, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    isn’t this what normal unselfish mothers and father are suppose to do?
    ¯\_(“,)_/¯

  8. Sukie

    March 19, 2016 at 12:56 am

    That is a beautiful family portrait: a tenderly loving, joyous, unposed everyday scene. It is the sort of memory which counts. I am sure they both will treasure it.

  9. M.

    March 19, 2016 at 3:37 am

    Surely most fathers are committed so: but possibly not so well dressed.

  10. dario fattore

    March 19, 2016 at 4:54 am

    carinissima e dolcissima questa foto

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  11. V Söderqvist

    March 19, 2016 at 5:15 am

    Lovely photo, fathers picking up their kids is very common in Sweden, nice to see an Italian man doing it!

    • Nini Piccola

      March 21, 2016 at 11:24 am

      Until I was 12 years old my Italian father used to take me to school every morning.

  12. francesca

    March 19, 2016 at 6:53 am

  13. Freya - Fashionable People

    March 19, 2016 at 7:30 am

    Such a lovely photo – genuine happiness!

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  14. From The World With Love

    March 19, 2016 at 10:06 am

    Amazing pictures so much happiness in this image..after all what is more important than familly..and Italian nows very well the Family values….
    i love the coat he is doing ..can’t find them easily:(
    with love
    Yael Guetta

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  15. Dorotea

    March 19, 2016 at 11:43 am

    I think this is a photo they will cherish the rest of their lives.

  16. Putri

    March 19, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    what a lovely pic! both looks so happy, love it :)

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  17. KaSonndra

    March 19, 2016 at 1:38 pm

    Both Alessandro and his gorgeous little girl are stylish. I always adore and appreciate the relationships between a dad and his little princess. Thanks for sharing this photo.

    XxKaSonndra
    http://livewellbefabulous.com

  18. Suze

    March 19, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    I love the way that Italians are so close to their family and these two look like such a happy father and daughter!

    Suze | LuxuryColumnist

  19. Jenlan

    March 19, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    I agree with May Kay, I think it is completely normal. The photo is beautiful.

  20. Silvie

    March 19, 2016 at 2:41 pm

    Refreshing? It should be normal for a dad to be a good dad!

  21. Lis @----->-----------

    March 19, 2016 at 4:58 pm

    Great Italian father and daughter style….both rock’n the Americano chic. =) xox

  22. carole

    March 20, 2016 at 1:50 am

    Great on so many levels!!

  23. Sarah

    March 20, 2016 at 1:57 am

    He is her father, he should be present!

    If he was a woman, there would be no notable respect there because it is expected for a mother to pick up her child from school, a man does it and it’s a blog post.

    • Stella

      March 21, 2016 at 1:59 pm

      Agreed!

  24. Beren

    March 20, 2016 at 2:40 am

    Great picture ,except for te text AMEN

  25. sofaundermapletree

    March 20, 2016 at 9:57 am

    Very lovely happy photo.

    I love family photos in everyday situations.
    It’s even funny to think – when I was a child nobody I knew took photos of strangers. That would have been considered weird. Of course not everyone owned a camera after all…

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  26. bobkentnova

    March 20, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    Your pics from Italy inspired me to start wearing white jeans, several years back. Many style compliments have come my way because of this.

  27. D Mitchell

    March 20, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    Such a shame that a man being committed to being a good parent is ‘refreshing’ – as if that’s a novel thing! Surely this is a more common commitment amongst dads than that!

  28. Mbatha

    March 21, 2016 at 12:05 am

    Much style and much love goes well together!!

  29. taimemode

    March 21, 2016 at 4:56 am

    Beautiful picture, full of joy, of style. Stunning LIFE photo :)
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  30. The Italian Glam

    March 21, 2016 at 4:57 am

    one of my favourite girl names ever…
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  31. Mes Voyages a Paris

    March 21, 2016 at 7:07 am

    He looks so cool and she is so cute!!
    XX

    Mónica Sors

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  32. Enrie Scielzo

    March 21, 2016 at 8:52 am

    This picture is so joyful, I love it!

    Enrie Scielzo, The Ladyboy
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  33. antonella gonnelli

    March 21, 2016 at 8:55 am

    this is part that I prefer of fashion: the human side!!!!! Bravi !!

  34. Agnes Grey

    March 21, 2016 at 9:02 am

    I think it so refreshing to see a woman so committed to being a good parent and being very present in his child’s life. I really respect Alessandra for that.

    How’s that?

  35. Joana

    March 21, 2016 at 9:04 am

    Great look! ;)

  36. Carlos Dawson

    March 21, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    So agree with you Sart! Being committed to your family through thick and thin…for richer for poorer…in the face of adversity or success and seeing through a marriage and bringing up a family is so so important! I agree with you, from one family man to another, what could be more important than sticking together as a family unit. I have been tempted, certainly, and had offers to stray…but I made a vow and I am sticking to it! To Family!

  37. Anthony

    March 21, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    Red socks, and she loves her dad. Okay that’s a winner for the daughter. Really nice comments made about male/female divisions in society.

    • FranklyFrank

      March 22, 2016 at 11:57 am

      Where can I find those perfect red socks?

  38. Casualism

    March 21, 2016 at 5:00 pm

    I rember this guy when I was about to start my fashion journey. Such an interesting person…

    Regards,
    Adrian / The-Bigwig
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  39. Dax

    March 21, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    Alessandro is always OK to me!

  40. Fabrizio

    March 22, 2016 at 4:43 am

    Big Alessandro…he is the number one!

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  41. tami

    March 22, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    They look so happy I want to crawl up into the photo and live there. I am glad norms are changing. These experiences will set her up for choosing a man who wants to be deeply involved in his children’s life.

  42. Maria

    March 25, 2016 at 7:13 am

    Wow, she isn’t wearing skinny jeans. How cool is that? I am not a parent, but in my opinion, dads and moms are not interchangeable. I am pretty happy to live among people who believe that the mom should be the primary caretaker, and the dad should be the primary earner. Sorry. But I think its time to change things back a bit. But who knows. I am still a bit too young to be a parent. Maybe I will change my mind. I don’t think I would need to worry though, as I don’t associate with such an artistic, liberal group as fashion people. I like men to be masculine.

  43. therealblonde

    March 27, 2016 at 7:16 pm

    It’s not masculine to be a good father? That’s just something that artistic, liberal people do? So silly. You certainly have some growing up to do.

    • Maria

      March 29, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      I hope I didn’t give that impression, but I think a good father is one that provides the financial backing for the family, and a good mother is the one that takes on most of the childcare. Its not interchangeable, in my opinion. I think that someone that fails to provide for their family, or abandons them is a bad father. This doesn’t mean that the man should be the one to take their daughters to ballet class, or feed the baby. I have grown up with political correctness my whole life, with people clapping every time a male does something feminine, and frankly, I’m over it. Its not making the world any better.

      • Erin

        May 16, 2016 at 9:41 am

        I personally think it is making the world a better place. When men and women are able to express the full spectrum of their feminine and masculine selves, they both become more fully actualized people. There is nothing about a man doing traditional feminine things that makes him less masculine unless you believe that women running companies makes them less feminine too. When dads are more part of their children’s lives, it’s a good thing. Just like when women are included as equals in work place environments.

        Now if *you* personally would prefer or the man to be the provider, that’s a valid choice. It’s just not the only choice that’s going to be right for everyone. Equality is not about everyone being the same but everyone having the same freedom to pursue their own happiness. And there is nothing in these choices that make us less or more masculine and feminine. Masculinity and femininity is not just about how we choose to live but it’s a state of being. I’m a very feminine woman and I love strongly masculine men and I don’t find anything de-masculinizing about a man taking on a more traditionally female role. Just as there are strongly masculine gay men and transgender men and feminine gay men and transgender men. There are too many variations in life to say that this one thing makes someone less masculine.

  44. Caroline

    March 30, 2016 at 1:52 pm

    Huge DITTO on the comments suggesting it should be commonplace for a man to be picking up his kids, not seen as ‘refreshing.’

  45. Jenlan

    April 2, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    Maria, I’m quite confused by your comments on both the age and the gender issue.
    Do you mean that I, a doctor, am masculine because I provide part of my family income? Or that my husband is less masculine because he has a working wife? We both take care of the children in equal proportions. Not to be politically correct (!!??), but because we love them.
    Let’s please stop to define what masculine and what feminine is for others. Let’s just be ourselves.
    I will definitely not stop you from quitting your job when you will be a mother, if that is what you want….

    I agree with your comment on the jeans.

  46. Light & Shade Men

    April 18, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    Alessandro is a King.

    He reminds always of a renaissance man.

    And all the joy he transmits is great.

    Apart from that the outfit is pure style.

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  48. L

    April 24, 2016 at 1:56 am

    So glad it’s his daughter. And she is adorable.

  49. Erin

    May 16, 2016 at 9:44 am

    They look like a professional add from Ralph Lauren, they are so well coiffed and clearly happy and enjoying each other’s company.

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